Bringing all of yourself - LGBT Christian retreat day
OPEN TABLE, the monthly service for Liverpool’s lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans (LGBT) community at St Bride’s Liverpool, held its first Retreat Day last weekend. Kieran Bohan reports.
Twelve regular participants in the Open Table service came together at the Cenacle Convent in Liverpool for a time of reflection on where we have come from as individuals and what it mean to be an LGBT Christian.
Retired Reverend Colin Oxenforth, formerly of St Margaret’s Toxteth, led the day, drawing on his extensive experience of service to the LGBT community as a volunteer with Friend Merseyside, the Lesbian and Gay Christian Movement and the Institute for the Study of Christianity and Sexuality.
The aim of the day was to look at what is it about our LGBT identity that shapes our spirituality, and vice versa.
We began by reflecting on our life and spiritual journey by plotting a timeline and marking the highs and lows along the way, first by ourselves, then with another, and finally with the whole group.
The negative experiences we shared were:
Prejudice
Rejection
Need to be healed/delivered
Losing friends and family
Poor self image
‘Bible is very clear’
Depression
Suppression
Loneliness
Keeping thing under cover
Denial
Guilt and shame
Expectations and conflicts
Fear
Struggle
Patronised
Double life
Secretive
Illness
Alcoholism
Addictions
Strains
Stress
Sadness
Existing
Pressure to Conform
There was much empathy and insight as we recalled these times of vulnerability.
Then we moved on to the positive outcomes, and were pleased to find there were more of these:
God bigger than ‘tradition’
Freedom
Liberation
Acceptance
Peace
At home
Being oneself
St Bride’s
Integrity
Love
Fellowship
Beauty
Recognising gifts
Solidarity
‘Not the only one’
Justice
Hope
Honesty
New community
Safe place
Support
Like-minded people
Genuine friendships
Humour
Camp
Joy
Safety
Compassion
Empathy
New family
Coming out
New theology
Healing
Glimpsing what has shaped our sense of identity and spirituality helped us to look at ways we can express this through what we do at Open Table and elsewhere in our communities, focusing on the theme of bringing all of ourselves to God.
After a simple bring and share lunch, we discussed how the Open Table community might develop after celebrating six years of monthly services this summer. This includes a desire for those who are able to meet more often, in monthly sharing groups to deepen the connections made at Open Table and beyond, and an interest in celebrating special liturgies to mark our rites of passage such as coming out, commitment to a partner and affirmation of gender identity.
We also shared news of requests from other areas in the UK for support to develop similar services for the LGBT community, our families, friends and allies, including a visit later this month to Canterbury at the invitation of the Bishop of Dover.
We ended the day with a simple Eucharist and departed with a beautiful blessing of affirmation:
“As we leave this place,we leave knowing that we are God’s own children.
All that we have and all that we are is a sacred trust from God.
From this moment on, let us live with gratitude for who we are
and commit ourselves to honour each person as a beloved child of God.”
